Lauryn Hill Responds to Controversial Comments From Her Daughter: 'We're Both Learning and Healing'

Hill took to Facebook and posted a lengthy response to her daughter's comments

August 14, 2020

Lauryn Hill took to Facebook on Thursday to respond to her daughter Selah Marley regarding an Instagram Live video where Marley details the discipline she received from her mother.

Earlier this week, Marley held a two-hour Instagram Live where she spoke on the childhood trauma she endured.  "I've been hurting for so much of my life and so much of my life has been me avoiding how much I'm really hurting just from the circumstances,” she said at the time.

Marley went into detail on how her father, Rohan Marley, was largely absent from her life. She also described her mother as being “very angry” and spoke on the physical discipline she received.

"She would spank us to no avail," Marley said. “She was just very angry. So, so, so, so, so, so angry. She was literally not easy to talk to and then half the time we didn't live with her. I lived with my grandparents half the time."

Hill responded to her daughter in a lengthy Facebook post.

“Selah has every right to express herself, I encourage it, but she also got the discipline that black children get because we are held to a different standard,” she wrote.  “The discipline was seen through the lens of a young child who also had no place to reconcile me as mom, and me as a larger than life public figure.”

“It took me a while to realize that my children, and probably everyone who knew me saw me in this duality. To me, I am just me. If I am guilty of anything it is disciplining in anger, not in disciplining,” Hill added.

She continued,  "My life has been about protecting my children from all kinds of danger, and that's only possible when you protect yourself from the danger as well."

Hill added that she and Selah have addressed these experiences with one another. "We're both learning and healing,” she said. “Each of my children has a similar story and journey.”

As for the backlash she’s received in the wake of her daughter’s remarks, Hill said, “all of you in a rush to crucify someone, careful who you string up or nail up. You might have an extremely limited view of the actual reality.”

"We all hate abuse and exploitation, sometimes in an effort to fight against it we can easily become the abuser, the exploiter, and THIS is what we have to watch for. No one is exempt from needing to watch themselves in this way."

Following her initial IG Live video, Selah took to Instagram to provide clarity on the situation and implored people not to go after her parents.

“It's a very complex topic, and really what I was discussing was how a lack of unity in the household can create severe trauma that you're not even aware of," she said.

“At the end of the day, I never said my father was a f*****g deadbeat completely. I just said that he wasn't as present as I needed him to be.... Don't go bashing my f*****g father and my family."

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